Hot and Cold

If there is one thing I hate the most when dating, it is when men are hot and cold. Ever since the publication of "He's Just Not That Into You" I have been an adamant believer in the fact that if a guy is interested, he will make an effort. So I was pleasantly surprised when this guy (we will call him Matt) reached out to me after one month of not speaking to him. We had initially been set up by a mutual friend. We went on 2 great dates and that was that. The end. I didn't hear from him in more than 30 days. But I had a feeling he was thinking about me when in our month of silence when he requested my friendship on Facebook. It was out of the blue and totally welcome. While I did like him, I am not the kind of girl who is too 'available' in the beginning of a relationship. A small game of hard to get is the best way to go. So when it was radio silence after the second date I was neither shocked or alarmed... but I just kind of let it go. Well, low and behold, he texts me out of the blue 30+ days later. He asked me out and I said yes. 

Well things blew up. We saw each other multiple times a week. Dating regularly. Still occasionally playing hard to get, but overall we were just enjoying spending time with each other. Fast forward another 30 days and things start to get weird. We took our dogs to the dog park one Saturday afternoon. We had a good time but I could tell something was off. He was quiet and not quite as 'touchy' as he usually was. I brushed it off and went upon my day. Well that night, it was especially bothering me since after dropping me off back at my apt he didn't text me like he said he would. The next day I invited him over to watch Sunday night football. He was again awkward with an off mood. We tried to discuss our future. If you see the post below, it's a little complicated because he is leaving for the Navy in January. We didn't really have any answers, but our conversation ended with a positive vibe. 

SO here is where I start to get upset. He didn't text me for FOUR days after. FOUR DAYS!! Meanwhile, I am thinking about him constantly. Replaying our conversation over and over again. And then I realize, maybe it was a goodbye. Maybe he was finding a nice way to say I don't want to see you anymore. So then I get mad! Like blood boiling mad because of all the things I'm over thinking. All of the scenarios I am creating in my mind were because the only thing I could think about was WHY THE FUCK is he not texting me?!? It was wearing on me hard. I didn't want to appear desperate because I had initiated the last 3 dates, but I could handle it anymore so I sent him an innocent flirty text. Something like "Hey stranger! It's been awhile, what are you up to?". His response: "Hanging out with my family until Saturday (3 days away). Sup with you?" Um... excuse me? Is this a cop-out? I feel like he was making it a point to have an excuse for the next 3 days and trying to make it clear that he was unavailable. 

I am so fucking sick of dating. Like beyond! We both knew how this could end at the end of the year. I knew this information before our first date! And if it was such a big deal, why would he recontact me after a month of not speaking! It's udderly exhausting. Now, I'm sucked into this guy and he's being a dick. 

No one reads this, but if you happen to be a single guy reading this blog please understand this. DON'T, I repeat, DON'T be hot and cold. It just toys with our emotions. It confuses things and makes things complicated. If you're not interested then say you aren't. And if you are interested, then act like it! It is as easy as that. I am in no way, shape or form a 'needy' girl. I pride myself on my down-to-earth-ness. But I now question every move I make with this guy because I don't want to seem high-maintenance. I just want him to want me. Or not. Just stop being so in between!!!!!!